I accidentally discovered through a mutual friend that J is back on fb. It's as though he totally eradicated me from his life, not that I'd ever left much of a track. But seriously there's not a single photo, reference, anything. It's as though the last 6 years of his life never happened. Wow! I refuse to be like that, the last 6 years did happen and they left a deep impression that will probably never smooth over, otherwise known as a scar.